Been dating for a year and a half
I recently made an online profile in the hopes of trying to find a man that I can connect with on a deeper level than the past.I’ve tried to learn from my past mistakes in dating and grow from them and I figured trying online dating would help widen my dating pool.I’m frustrated because when I go out men make me feel extremely uncomfortable by constantly commenting on the way I look and men online get into sex very quickly.A lot of people don’t understand why I’ve turned to online dating since I’ve been told I’m a catch and don’t seem like I would have trouble meeting people.The main problem I have is men only being interested in me for sex or being blatantly sexual when they first approach me.
What can I do to show guys I’m girlfriend material and more than just a one night stand?She refers to lessons from her dating history, but leaves us wondering what it is she did learn along the way. To the extent where she asked me if I actually knew the guy! Brings to mind a conversation with a female friend years ago. “No, but your last 4 bf have ALL been the same guy in terms of looks, tastes, attitudes, hobbies, etc. Not quite the same as selling yourself short on the dating market. 🙂Maybe the issue for Nay lies with a recurrent pattern in the date selection process.In terms of age, if she is in her 20’s, men may still be in their wild oats season. One such wrong message is found when some women throw a couple of pics and have zero profile contents: “hey, I look great! ” or has nothing to write, or writes nothing of interest. Maybe her expectations are ill defined (I do read profiles where women specifically state seeking an LTR, and no interest for a ONS).
Women who neuter themselves in their online dating profiles are hurting their own chances to attract men, and falsely conflate dating (which ideally involves sex) with job hunting (which, ideally, doesn’t.)Rare instance where I think you did not address the main concern, Evan. )Suggestion, as it is relevant: the initial writer’s AGE should become a std feature.