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That you have things to work on in your character, personality or attitude.
But that willingness to accept fault is also incredibly attractive to the right guy.
Editor's note: I'd like to welcome the newest Divorced Girl Smiling Contributor, Gretchen Hydo. I've been following her for a long time and reading her articles.
Dear Divorced Christian, That term still stings, doesn’t it?
You know that both parties have to commit to supporting each other and making compromises on a daily basis. Maybe you’ve recognized that you’ve made a mistake–either in your own actions, or simply by marrying someone who was making a lot of mistakes. Maybe you were the one who walked away, and now know what “Mr.
This, too, means you’ll have a more realistic and mature approach to your future relationships. You had the balls (irony intended) to walk away from something that wasn’t working. And isn’t afraid to face some public scorn in the process. And that’s incredibly valuable for your future partners in life, because you’re clearly humble enough to accept criticism and question yourself. You probably now have a deep knowledge of what sexually satisfies you (and what doesn’t). Wrong” looks like, so you’ll better able to spot “Mr. You know what it’s like to watch love slip away, and you’re more able to keep it from happening again, to have the tough conversations that need to happen. You’ve suffered pain and loss, so you value joy and happiness more than those who’ve never lost it. Because there are those of us who find you all the more appealing for the battles you’ve won & lost.
A female friend of mine got divorced recently, and confessed to me how much she dreaded now having the “divorced” label hanging over her head as she re-entered the dating pool, like some modern day version of the scarlet letter. You took a swing at love, rather than just playing it safe on the sidelines.
And, even if you could find friends and activities, there’s no money for child care for an occasional evening of adult fellowship. Sometimes people turn their backs on God’s perfect plan for their lives. Maybe you weren’t even a Christian when you went through your divorce. Maybe it was your addiction that made life with you unbearable. My family crumbled under the pain and shame of divorce. I had nothing left but Jesus…but Jesus was more than I ever needed. And he is the giver of new life, the one who can resurrect our lives from the death of divorce. God Hates Divorce Oh, I know you cringe when you hear that!But I for one, think being divorced can actually be a stamp of awesomeness to we men willing to look past the stigma. Hell, even George Clooney couldn’t make his first marriage work. You know it’s better to be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong.I think this experience actually means you’re a cut above your never-been-married friends. And are maybe more willing to wait for the right guy than jump into something just to have a body next to you.And then there are those well-meaning Christians who want you to know that you have failed Christ by your divorce. They tell you that if you remarry one day, you will forever be living in an adulterous relationship, surely condemned to eternal hell. Sometimes one party makes choices that forever change a covenant relationship. And yet now that you have given your life to Christ, you find people telling you that you must remain single. You live with the constant shame and guilt that you destroyed your family. I’ve lived through the hurt and the pain, the shame and guilt. It has been a long, tough road, but my God is in the process of redeeming every hurt and pain I have experienced. It’s thrown in your face as if divorce is the unpardonable sin.They tell you that you must stand in the gap, praying for reconciliation with your ex-spouse. I entered marriage with a covenant mindset, with plans for until death do we part. You are struggling to reconcile the God who lovingly called you to him with the one other Christians are presenting to you. He has been exactly what I need on this journey, exactly when I needed it. But let’s be honest: God does hate divorce…and so do you…and so do I.
Even if you did fit in, there are time constraints. You begged God, night and day, to save your marriage. You gave your all for years and years, and you never saw anything except continued adultery in return.