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For me, it highlights the importance of choosing someone who is gentle, caring, and good-hearted not only in the good times but also in the bad times. A good friend once told me that you have to “fit your own oxygen mask first.” I was in a really bad place with depression and anxiety and trying to make a relationship work that was never going to work, fixing all of his issues and neglecting my own. You have to give all that you’re capable of giving to your partner (love, understanding, forgiveness, acceptance), and expect that in return. Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want to be loved doesn’t mean they don’t love you.
It was the most intense wake-up-call piece of advice I’ve ever received, and I now repeat it like a parrot to anyone asking for advice. That really opened me up to thinking about new ways of appreciating people, and made me less angry.
Ask yourself how much you’ve both opened up, though.
Think about how deep your discussions have gotten so far and how much more you have left to cover about each other.
The right person for you gives you a huge sense of butterflies, knows how to comfort you, and, more importantly, accepts you for who you are.
But, just because you’ve found someone great doesn’t mean your dating work is done. Just as you had to kiss a few frogs before you found your prince (or princess), you know have to play a different kind of waiting game.
There will be plenty of opportunities to find love, and you can’t take rejection so seriously, especially when you’re young. “Staying is a choice.” My mom told me this when my marriage was clearly over and I felt powerless, terrified, hopeless, all those dark places you go when you know that it’s over but you stay and stay and stay, and try and try some more, only to come to the same heartbreaking conclusions.
I learned to love myself above all else and to love myself enough to leave. As women, we tend to want to nest and nurture and love. Your partner is not a mind reader, whether it’s flowers or sex positions.
This seriously helped me through a rough patch in my relationship, and reminds me that I can only be honest with my partner if I’m honest about how I’m feeling on my own first.
Don’t try to take on all the heartbreaks, huge mistakes, and family drama all at once, though.
These things will present themselves in conversation in due time, as will deeper levels of both of your’s characters, dreams, and doubts.
All the minor issues, big milestones, and everything in between depends on how well the two of you can sit down, talk things out, and stay on the same page.
As you work on your communication skills more and more, boundaries will start to come up.
When something comes up, rather than talking shit about my partner to my friends, I try to talk directly with him to hash it out.