Dating for fat and big single women
For a long time, I thought that I needed to keep talking or give explanations when men would make negative comments about how I look or dress because I was worried I would miss out on a chance for a date with my “dream guy.” Turns out, my “dream guy” would never tell me I would look better if I wore skinny jeans.
Keeping this negativity around would bring down anyone’s confidence, so getting rid of it is naturally a boost.
” “Will I ever find someone who wants to do more than hook up?
), Match, The League (if you’re accepted — I just was and am ELATED) — there are so many options!Sure, it hurts to see something like that regardless of how much self-love and acceptance you have, but it acts as a reminder that you are the boss of your own life (and matches! There is a big difference between someone desiring your body and loving you for your perceived flaws and them fetishizing your weight.If a match constantly makes comments about your size, asks about specific numbers in regards to your weight, encourages you to eat more or gain weight in an unhealthy way, or refers to you in common fetishizing words, that probably means he or she is a hard no.Rather than getting down on myself, I really should have remembered that it was his fault for wanting to tear me down like that.Once I stopped paying attention to my inner dialogue, I started having fun and swiping right on whoever interested me rather than who I “thought I could get.” This confidence worked, too, and led to way more dates!
Being a plus size woman, however, there come even more challenges than the usual.