Dating in 1970
The women reported to me that they did not feel threatened—although they were very likely to report that they felt disappointed. Most of the precautions I thought were important were against being stuck for a whole evening with a boring date.
I especially recommended arranging to meet for the first time only for coffee or a drink.
Spending a couple of hours with someone who was unattractive and unappealing was not too much of a price to pay for the chance to have met someone who might be attractive and appealing.
It was also possible, sometimes, to do something that was entertaining, even with someone who was unattractive and unappealing.
The person he met and married was another psychiatrist.) There were two problems inherent in advertising for dating purposes, or answering such advertisements.
The lesser problem was the concern that women had that they were endangering themselves meeting strangers about whom they knew very little. Stories circulated about women being lured to their deaths. Consequently, stratagems were developed to make such encounters somewhat safer, that is, refusal by the woman to give her home address, or even her telephone number.
Couples met for the first time in very public places. This was before the time of the “date rape” drugs; but women were especially careful, nevertheless, to drink very little.
These precautions seemed less important after the first few times a woman responded to these published invitations to meet.
It turned out the men they were introduced to this way were no more or less dangerous than men encountered for the first time in a bar, or even men whom they met through the recommendation of a friend. (A somewhat older, recently divorced, woman told me she was sitting with her date at a fancy restaurant when he took out his teeth and put them in a wine glass.) Being pro-active, as I usually am, I encouraged men and women, too, to try dating this way, although, certainly, only after taking reasonable precautions.
Similarly, during parts of the latter half of the 20 century, people once again began to use newspapers and magazines to make known their wishes to meet someone of the opposite sex.