Dating out of your race
Keep in mind that Ok Cupid users can skip a question with ease.
Like it or not, they had to interact with and rely on people outside of their ethnocultural group.
And so I’m disinclined to judge those who do have strong same-race preferences too harshly.
Nevertheless, I do feel comfortable judging them guilty of being clueless.
My sisters and I were in the same boat when we went to school. We assimilated into an outer-borough American culture in which it was assumed that everyone was “ethnic,” that everyone belonged to some religious minority or another, and that of course you’d constantly be mingling with people who looked different from you, because that was an inescapable fact of life.
Brooklyn in this era was hardly a paradise of interethnic harmony. Even so, I definitely felt more typical than strange in being an American-born child of immigrants, and diversity in my world was so pervasive that I found its absence really jarring.
This kind of “opportunity hoarding” is accepted as par for the course.