Dating someone not exclusive
A man who has chosen to go anonymous but said I could refer to him as a “freelance lovemaker” thinks exclusivity and being significant others are one in the same. “When I’m exclusive with someone I like, it’s primarily my desire that I don’t need to worry about if she is being with other people,” says 25-year-old Bryn.“If you’re only going to sleep with one person and you only want to sleep with that one person, that person is your boyfriend or girlfriend,” says FL. “When you’re not bf/gf’ there is less of a pressure to analyze that relationship in terms of having a defined future with them.You'll have belongings at each other's place, like toothbrushes.
In my experience, this is the only way to know you're exclusive: to talk about it.You’re not sleeping with anyone else, but they aren’t your girlfriend.What makes this harder to navigate is the fact that people interpret social relationships so differently.Essentially, commitment (in our guy opinion) is a juiced-up exclusive relationship.If I'm in an exclusive relationship, I can lie on the couch while she does stuff with her family.
This "unspoken expectations" level isone of the scariest thing about commitment for guys...because we are lazy.