Dating too many guys at once
Chocolate bars, glasses of wine, episodes of Sex and The City … Gay men, in particular, have a reputation for doing things to excess. I am your typical metropolitan millennial gay that makes use of social media, dating apps and tacky clichés like they’re going out of fashion.Friends have been known to refer to me as ‘the one-date wonder’. Because I’ve been known to jump from man to man, never managing to find the one that’s just right. This isn’t helped by the fact that in London there is a constant stream of men at your fingertips. I’m not judging others, or requesting your judgment, but my attitude has been why date just one man when you can date three and find ‘the one’ all that quicker?Did he come over only to watch Netflix for an hour, hook up and then leave or did you spend the whole day together?If your new guy sees you as a potential girlfriend rather than a booty call, you’ll be able to tell.If he wants to be your boyfriend he will act like one.He’ll take you out to dinner, take you to a comedy show or a picnic.He should text you often, make plans to hang out and he should generally enjoy spending time with you outside the bedroom.Does he put on his clothes and head home after or does he enjoy post sex cuddles and sleeping over?
So do I think you should be exclusive before you have sex? The first thing you can do is understand that men look for sex and find love.
Somewhere down the line, I lost the ability to form quality connections because I was online apps trying to form several at once. It wasn’t until an older friend had a sit down with me that I realized the only person that was really losing out here was me. So, next time your version of Billy messages you wanting to meet when you’ve already got plans with James, tell Billy to take a cold shower.
Don’t even think about sending your location to Simon.
Instead, she is focused on making sure strong women find the right partner that is worth their time.
It’s sometimes more satisfying to consume ‘treats’ in larger quantities than it is to just limit yourself to the one. After all, for gay guys, isn’t an attractive man the biggest treat of them all? We over-indulge in what we convince ourselves is a positive thing, until we find ourselves back where we started with no tangible improvement in our situation.
One of the more recent statistics I found on this topic was from a survey taken by in 2016 that said: See?