Daughter is dating a much older man
This may not be the case, but whether it is or not, taking on daily public scrutiny like this is no picnic.It will happen a whole lot earlier for him than it will for you, so you’ll get jealous of his increased free time while he’ll start demanding more of your attention to fill up his long, empty hours, even though you’re still an occupied professional.“Being with an older man definitely pushed me to have kids younger than my demographic,” she says, adding that she feels like people often “look at [her] askance” for having her first kid at a very young age. C., where people are relatively open-minded, I felt like people gave me looks that said, ‘Don’t you know how to use birth control?'” Emily says that strangers don’t often make the assumption that Albert is her father, possibly because they’ve lived all over the world and—outside of America—marriages between an older man and much younger woman are not as uncommon or stigmatized as they are here.He makes a lot of of the big decisions because he’s ‘the man.’ And he was already established in his career whereas I was just starting out; I followed his career for nearly all my adult life, which didn’t make it easy for me to build something of my own.” She does note, however, that there were some upsides to being in a marriage that was not altogether egalitarian, such as the fact that she never had to feel like she was carrying the burden of financial responsibility. “But I have had to come to terms with the realization that I will spend a good part of my life as an older person alone…or at least not with my current partner.” And for more on the realities of an age gap relationship, check out these 25 Things Only Couples With Major Age Differences Know.
But Emily also believes that, if she had married someone younger, she might not have ended up having children as early as 24.
If you want to wait to have a kid until you’re in your early 30s, your older man is going to be about 50.
Having to run around after a 5-year-old is hard work, especially if it’s been that much longer since your man ran around as a 5-year-old. Older people warrant more of it, so while your man’s white hair will give him all kinds of credit with the people you two encounter, you’ll automatically be dismissed as slightly inferior, regardless of your personal attributes.
“I’m a very type A, career-driven person, and I feel like sometimes people look at me as someone who married a sugar daddy,” she says.
“There’s this assumption that it has to be exploitative.
Women supposedly experience their sexual peak at age 35, while men allegedly go downhill after turning 18, allegedly. Wouldn’t it be nice to get old with someone and, as your rocking chairs creak back and forth, reminisce about the shows and music of your youths?