Dr phil s advice regarding sex and dating
Pornography is a hot-button issue of the day, and every season, more states add themselves to the list of legislatures that have declared pornography, and Internet pornography, to be a public health crisis.Often, these legislative efforts identify pornography as having blanket negative effects on people, and especially on couples.He apparently missed that there is porn made for women by women, there is porn that is deliberately made to be ehtical, and their is porn that is made to be both educational and ethical (Cindy Gallop) and there is lots of porn that is uploaded by volunteers, etc. Well, perhaps, just like flirting with the person at work could "open the door", or just talking to your neighbor could "open the door".But in fact, I know several middle-age men whose wives lost all interest in sex when they hit menopause, which is very common, and they turned to porn INSTEAD of cheating, and their wives apparently would prefer that they watch some porn to "get it out of their system" rather than having an affair or chasing them around the house pestering them for sex every day (yes, "pestering me for sex all the time" was a phrase a friend told me his wife actually said, and he watches porn instead now and she doesn't mind one bit).Actually, it's not quite a strawman if you can read with comprehension.By juxtaposition, she strongly implied as an argument that Dr.And I think many people would agree with my opinion if they read the article linked in the article above.
I should perhaps have been more accurate in countering that it is possible for him to be caring for his wife, yet be a prude.
But if they find out you are watching porn in secret, or have lied about it, then there are issues of secrecy and deception to deal with. No one is too worried about cheating, and they are screwing anything that moves. Can't see how this study applies to the general population of long-term couples. Sheesh Actually, he is very much a prude as he is portrayed in the article linked in this article. Oh, so you're the morally superior one here, and people like me are just animals? There are plenty of people who are totally insecure about having their spouse even looking at someone else -- the problem there is likely not so much on the person who looks, but the person who is overly jealous.
If you start to talk about your sexual and relational values, then you can start to have a deeper, more accepting, honest relationship, where you can even discuss issues such as sexual privacy, or how the two of you might deal with temptations of infidelity. Can't see how this study applies to the general population of long-term couples. I know when I start watching porn in a relationship, it’s because I’m not as invested in the woman anymore. I could see why someone would feel that was verging on cheating. I'm not talking to the characters in those films either. Your argument just lost all of its intellectual force. Porn is for many couples in the middle of that decision scale.
The vast majority of men have viewed porn, and it's not abnormal or unhealthy for many of them. Women are helpless victims, too stupid to realize when they're being "used", unlike men, who are always intelligent and conniving in the porn world. Phil, presumably, this would even apply to porn made by women for women. Phil's opinion to "prudishness" whereas Anna countered with "care for his wife" and some sort of morality, for which at least some semblance of evidence exists. Phil a prude, and in no way suggests that you said he didn't care for his wife.
Even when women are making money on their own porn and selling it to women, somehow they're all abusing themselves, I suppose. It's a little ironic to talk about the "intellectual force of arguments" when you lead with "Actually, he is very much a prude," shortly followed by gems like "Actually, it's not uncommon," and "utter nonsense." I don't think you should expect to change many minds that way. Unfailingly ironic, it was you who set up the straw man here.
Feelings can be "valid" without constituting accusations or implying fault.