Help my daughter is dating a loser dating a younger boy in high school
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You can simply feel good about yourself in comparison to him. You date losers because you truly, honestly, don’t believe that you can do better. The problem is, it’s one thing to know this and quite another to fix it. You can bend over backwards trying to rescue this guy, but the only person who can save him is… Dating someone based on what you hope and wish he will become does not work! You’re settling and telling yourself some fairy tale about how it’ll all be better in the future. Figure it out so you can break the co-dependency pattern. There’s a reason for that, and if you’re dating the right guy, you’ll never have any competition no matter how many other girls are interested. When you have the money, the good job, the car, the ambition – well, you hold the reins.
If you don’t think the guys you really like will even glance your direction, guess what? You’re going to have to do a lot of work before you get what you want. He doesn’t have much choice but to go along with what you want to do.
For this group I have also recently published “Stockholm Syndrome: The Psychological Mystery of Loving an Abuser”.
Your child may even call you a loser to put the blame on you for something he or she doesn't want to do.
Your child may be just as confused as you are about what's going on. Although this is normal behavior for most tweens, it's not fun for the parent who's constantly being criticized.
There are more victims in the environment of the Loser than his or her partner.
I’ve been contacted for help by the friends and loved ones of people involved in relationships with Losers (controlling and/or abusive partners).
It’s so much better to be with someone you can look in the eye as an equal.