How to tell if your dating a married man
When a man connected to heart listens, he listens with his entire body (which includes his brain and his balls).
He doesn’t just listen for a way into the outcome he wants.
One way that reveals itself is through the quality of his listening.
When I was trapped in the brain-ball matrix, I would only listen to a girlfriend with the singular intent of evaluating to respond.
Yet this power center is what enables us to deeply feel our own lives, to feel the world, and to then create truly extraordinary relationships with other people and lives in which we thrive everyday.
Truly, when we live from this innate power source which connects us to life, itself, we can make entire worlds thrive.
The heart doesn’t laugh in shallow arrogance through a facade of “I’m better and smarter than you.” A man connected to heart knows we’re all made of the same stuff underneath the surface gloss. I saw this in my relationships with women who acted in destructive ways because they did not know how to effectively communicate their pain to me.
He listens at the level of heart, where the real truth often resides.He can inspire and lift up the world, even if it’s only one person’s world.Men, particularly, routinely deny this powerful embodied connection to life that we cannot experience through our thinking brains alone.I can move powerfully towards my true heart’s desire – whether that be a woman or a trip to the tropics – with patience enough to allow Life its surprise curve balls. That’s another way you can recognize a man of heart; he makes most things fun …I didn’t really know laughter until I was well into my 30s. But I took myself and life so seriously that my laughter was shallow and intellectual.
My brain usually says I’ve got to work harder, be better and do more just to survive, never mind thrive. And my balls, well, they’re never satisfied for long. My heart, on the other hand, is perfectly content to enjoy this moment. He might even put someone in jail if they prove to threaten the world he envisions.