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Doing this means thinking about if the words we are using are describing the reality or creating the reality.
Usually, I have found that if I let go of my reactions and distance myself emotionally, I will find some truth. There are several kinds of intelligence, although when speaking of intelligence most of us assume we are talking about book smarts.
While these are very attractive traits to a company seeking a new hire, these are actually very unattractive, counterproductive traits in a woman while dating.
In the dance of dating for traditional, heterosexual men and women, the chase is part of the excitement and fuels the attraction.
Men use their drive, single-mindedness, goal oriented traits in both the boardroom and on the way to the bedroom. Their intelligence and creativity are used to entice and seduce the opposite sex. A woman who is driven, goal-oriented in dating comes off as desperate, pushy and aggressive.
It’s not that these are bad traits, but they go against the grain of natural sexual tension and attraction.
They will seduce the man, then to create romantic tension artificially, they will create drama.
Men can profess all day that they love intelligent women, but when I watch my smart, educated, successful and very attractive friends struggle with dating, I am suspicious.
So, whenever something appears to be true but receives adamant denial, I know that the problem is typically the way we are thinking about it and describing it due to societal hang-ups and an inaccurate view of ourselves.
Rumor has it men are threatened by intelligent women. He’s not looking for a business partner, he’s looking for a lover, friend, partner, spouse.
This rumor is spread, for the most part, by intelligent women who are overlooked by men in favor of someone else who they deem to be dumber. As a matter of fact, intelligence isn’t really a huge factor in attraction. And therefore, his criteria is different for selecting someone than for instance your bosses.
Drama makes us feel the same emotions associated with healthy, natural sexual tension like uncertainty and nervousness and so many often mistake drama for passion and embark on a toxic roller coaster ride.