My best friend is now dating my ex boyfriend
In fact, when we met, my now-partner was on a date with my best friend.
They dated casually for a few weeks before they split up and we got together, and three years later the same friend gave one of the readings at our wedding. It's common to assume that anything shared with you is by default shared with your partner as well; however, your friend might be much less comfortable speaking to you in confidence if she thought the details of her personal life were going to be relayed to someone who used to share her toothbrush.
They believe this is something everybody knows, that they're just following the rules.
This goes for friends and partners who haven't dated, too, now that I think of it. Don't ask your man if you're prettier/smarter/better at Scrabble than his last girlfriend.RELATED:22 Reasons to Stop Worrying About His Ex-Girlfriend17 Things I Wish I'd Known About Getting Over an Ex When I Was Younger11 Reasons Why He Broke Up With You Follow Lindsay on Twitter.You seem to have unfinished business with your ex-boyfriend, hence the reason you feel angry that your friend is associating with him. For a healthy marriage to flourish, you need to forget this guy and concentrate on your husband. As you have stated, you broke up five years ago and you are soon to get married.Even if you meet someone to whom you think you have no previous connection, a 10-minute conversation almost always reveals that she went to high school with your college roommate, used to be on a volleyball team with that girl from your book club, and had a six-month stand with your favorite barista.Queers don't tend to expect our dates to come into our lives completely free of prior complication.
Whether you're gay, straight, bi, or not into labels, dating a friend's ex can absolutely be done without sacrificing your friendship — you just have to follow a few simple guidelines. (I'm going to use female pronouns for your friend, and male pronouns for your sweetie, for the sake of simplicity; however, every rule here applies no matter the genders of the participants.) Keep your friend's secrets.