My ex boyfriend is dating an ugly girl
You did your best to be the man Crazy claims she wants you to be and then she pairs up with the kind of man she claims to not want.
This is frequently a post-divorce WTF moment for many men.
It’s confusing when Crazy re-couples with the loser, slacker, drunk, etc., she accused you of being.
You basically get punished for being a good person and giving Crazy exactly what she says she wants. This is one of the reasons water seeks its own level and birds of a feather flock together.
When you are a fundamentally decent, kind, hardworking person, you make Crazy look bad in comparison.
These are the guys who buy gifts for your kids with your child support money and then tell your kids that are the deadbeat.
Sociopaths (and people with sociopathic traits such as BPDs/NPDs/HPDs) don’t have friends — they have accomplices and victims.
Remember, Crazy is crazy and actions speak louder than words.