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And instead of men thinking, "Wow, that's horrible! Guys who share the #Not Me tag do it to show they "would never" harass, assault, mistreat or abuse women.
When a woman comes out with her experiences of abuse, you shut the hell up for one minute and listen. Not because I wrote this piece saying you should, but because of the tens of thousands of date rapes that take place each year by men who probably sound a lot like you all. The energies of the cosmos seriously slipped last week, and now we’re all rising back up.
We all internalize misogyny to some extent and I am never surprised, though I am disappointed, when it expresses in pop culture critiques. It is necessary to evaluate and critique all pop culture, no matter the gender of the creator.
It’s sometimes hard to sift out when it’s appropriate to bring in the context of a creator’s personal life and history, and to consider matters that are on the public record, and when it’s not, and yet this is precisely what we need to do.
Should we talk about how things like, for example, the way gender performance in pop culture plays a role in how we perceive gender in real life?
Absolutely we should, but the scrutiny applied to female creators of pop culture seems to run much deeper to me.
Either way, maybe reconsider Tweeting #Not Me because you’re proud you never raped anyone. @carolinephinney by Caroline Phinney I feel kind of bad for 2019 because people are already mad at it and it hasn't even started. That means you’re going to have to shake off the dust and become alert.
It's like when you get with someone following a breakup and you're already assuming they're cheating on and lying to you, because why would anyone ever be genuine? Venus and Saturn will also connect this week, offering us some much-needed connection to other people, as well as clarity…
Does my dislike of, say, Norah Jones's music mean that she doesn't contribute something to the music world? No one says that I can't be a rock fan if I harbor distaste for Metallica; it confuses me when people do that exact same thing with women musicians. Something I didn't even get to delve into here is that people who say 'this is not to my taste' can do so without maligning the creator, and also aren't betraying the feminist cause by doing so.