Yes, it’s natural to be curious about who he or she was dating before you, but these conversations will happen organically in their own time.
In short, try to avoid the ex chat when you’re on your first date.
Honestly, for your own self-respect, avoid digging through their Facebook page.
If your ideal first date is getting to know one another in a snug, independent coffee shop, but they suggest taking you to your first heavy metal gig, it’s worth trying to find a halfway ground.
These range from people not looking like their profile pictures, to people turning out to be downright dangerous.
It’s important you choose somewhere public for your first date, and as an extra precaution, make sure you let a friend or family member know you’re going on the date, and that you’ll contact them in however long if all goes well. You’re probably thinking about them intermittently throughout the day and it’s natural to want to let them know what you’re up to.
It might sound obvious, but try to pick photos for your profile that are clear, honest and show you in your best light. Every now and then, a horror story emerges about online dating.I’m sure many of us can admit to knowing what someone does for a living, where they went on their last five holidays, and the names of every member of their family including their dog before we’ve even met them.Not because they’ve told us in a message, but because we’ve found their relatively open Facebook profile and had a good look before the date.As a general rule, avoid people who instantly suggest you come over to their place, or who seem overly pushy to meet you before chatting first. It’s important to remember that it’s early days, though, and even if they’ve given you all the right signals so far, receiving a picture of the quinoa salad you made for lunch, or several missed calls when you only spoke the night before, might be enough to give them cold feet.Think of communication as balancing a set of scales: add only as much to your side as they do to theirs.
We all have that friend who used to be so much fun, and who listened to all our problems, then suddenly started dating someone new and vanished into their world. Equally, don’t quit your hobbies for your new date.